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You Wouldn’t Want to…

At 14 weeks, our Little Lion’s ears are fully developed so Lion can hear us talking! Lion is starting to make facial expressions too! I wonder if Lion will make lots of funny faces like Mama and Monkey?

The other day I was filling the tub for Monkey’s bath and she eagerly started trying to climb over the edge. I said, “Honey, you don’t want to get in the bath tub with all your clothes on.” She gave me a look that my parents referred to as the “Davis scowl.” It’s pretty impressive for a toddler (not so cool on teenager’s face).

I stopped myself: “you don’t want to…” That’s the dumbest statement ever!

Who am I to tell her what she does and doesn’t want to do? I can’t read her mind, but obviously she does want to get in the bathtub right now, regardless of clothes being on or off. Although after getting soaked, she might realize she doesn’t want to do that ever again.

It’s one thing to say, “I wouldn’t do that, if I were you,” but another to say, “you don’t want to do that.” For one thing, no one likes being told what to do, but saying “you don’t want to…” is a manipulative, sneaky way to control the actions of another person, and make them think it’s their idea, and I just read their mind.

If you stop and think about it, it’s a little weird for someone else to tell you what you do and don’t want to do, rather than you deciding that for yourself. You are the one who is going to reap the brunt of the consequences of your decisions. Sometimes the best way to learn what you don’t want to do, is to get the bathtub fully clothed.

How many times in my own life have I asked others to help me make a decision, and then based my choice on what others told me I should or shouldn’t want to do? Which is actually based on what they would do, if they were me. But they are not me. I am the only me there is. Ultimately, I am the one who would best knows my own wants and desires. Except for God, obviously, but other people are not God (although I could put them in God’s place), but that’s not recommended.

 

Becky
Becky
Becky is wife to Duane, mama to "Monkey-girl" and baby "Lioness" aka "PipSqueek." She is the administrative powerhouse for YWAM Bend and keeps our team grounded and organized. Her hope is to inspire and encourage other mamas in their journey to raise healthy, thriving families.
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