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3 options to Make the Most of a Crapy Situation When Poop Hits The Fan (written by Duane)

2015 was an insane year. There were moments I (Duane) thought everything was finally converging together to begin building my hopes and dreams. We were poised to receive a multi-million dollar Ranch property for YWAM Bend. We were eager to begin cultivating the land and establishing kingdom culture. But we chose to walk away due to conditions we were not willing to compromise on.

The remainder of 2015 was filled with extreme struggle, and overwhelming disappointments, which left me feeling jaded and hopeless. Crushing blows made me wonder if it was worthwhile to dream again. I lost sight of hoping in God. Faith dwindled as my purpose driven life was squashed to pieces like a street paver squishing things.

I had a bit of hope when I found a job. However, after 2 months, my client was unable to renew the contract. Suddenly I was without a job, no longer raising missionary support, and had no clue how I was going to provide for my family.

Starting 2016, I flatlined and felt it must be time to give up on my dreams and find a way to get through life. Outside of YWAM, I was confused about who I was, what I was good at doing, how to connect to the business sphere, and how to make money in the real world.

In spite of all the disappointments and confusions, I kept pressing on. I couldn’t give up hope, not when we had come so close to fulfilling our vision. I continued to read books and listen to stories from others who had overcome disappointments and achieved their dreams.

Then a ray of hope appeared in my e-mail in-box. It was a free video series on Designing Your Life by Michael Hyatt. As I watched the videos, Michael pointed out we have three options for life direction:

1) We can “Drive” like the overachieving A type, which doesn’t leave time for their family. While achieving so called “success,” they lose their health, friends, spouse, or some other failed life event happens. Their drive consumes them and leaves a mess in all other areas of their lives.

2) Or we could drift, tossed too and fro like the doubting man James 1:6 tells us about. The drifter never arrives anywhere because they never had a plan as to where they were going anyway. Broke, passionless, and directionless, the drifter often finds themselves questioning, “how did I get here”?

3) Or I could design my life. Taking time to partner with God to set life priorities, envision them as a reality, and intentionally plan the necessary steps to reach those goals.

This lead to the purchase of Michael’s “Best Year Ever” course, which we did together as a YWAM Bend team at our staff retreat weekend. One major take-away from our Retreat, was to give a name to the year, to take a moment and acknowledge the year for what it was. I named 2015 as my Year of Disappointment. Once I accepted it for what it was, I was able to pick up the pieces and move on, with a heart of Thankfulness for the ways we had learned and grown through our “Year of Disappointment.”

Click here to Read Becky’s story about what God spoke to her through “The Best Year Ever” course during our YWAM Bend Staff Retreat Weekend.

Becky is wife to Duane, mama to "Monkey-girl" and baby "Lioness" aka "PipSqueek." She is the administrative powerhouse for YWAM Bend and keeps our team grounded and organized. Her hope is to inspire and encourage other mamas in their journey to raise healthy, thriving families.
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